Since the first time, I struggle to maintain my erection and lose focus due to performance anxiety, and panic even though my partner reassures me that everything is fine. Is there anything I can do to break this cycle? You are far from the only person in the world to have these particular concerns, but if you cannot relinquish them they will interrupt your ability to enjoy sex altogether. Try to remember that sex is supposed to be fun.
Tweet about this Share this on Facebook. Flashback to, what feels like a few hundred years ago, to around the time I lost my virginity. Ah memories. At the time, it seemed like everyone was doing it but me. First it was Hannah, then it was Jazz, then Clara.
A breakup with anyone can be very difficult. For young people, emotions can feel particularly intense and difficult to control, so a breakup can make it feel like you will never be happy again. All of this goes double if the person you've broken up with is the person you lost your virginity to. Your first time having sex with someone is a powerful moment in your life, and it can feel impossible to get over.